Closeness
Autonomy
One person feels they need more autonomy, the other longs for more closeness.
Online · Trauma-informed · NARM®-informed
Couples Coaching
For couples who want to understand recurring conflict, communicate more clearly or meet each other with greater honesty and compassion.
Free 20-minute call · Online · No commitment
What may become possible
More choice in the moments that usually take over.
You keep returning to the same conflict
One or both of you often feel misunderstood or unheard
Needs or boundaries are difficult to express
The connection feels less alive or more distant
You are longing to deepen your connection
Recurring conflict
Why do we keep having the same argument?
Couples coaching cannot guarantee a particular outcome. It can create more space for understanding, honesty and connection.
Feeling misunderstood
Endless talking
You enter endless conversations without really touching the core.
Criticism
Guilt
In your dynamic you might be entering a spiral of blame or guilt.
How I support you
Space-holding without taking sides.
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We focus on what is happening now
Earlier experiences can matter, but the main focus is how your dynamic shows up today in thoughts, emotions, bodily reactions, impulses and communication.
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Both perspectives matter
I do not work from the assumption that one partner is the cause of the problem. We explore how the dynamic is created between you.
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Your intentions guide the process
You may want more closeness, clearer communication, a different way of handling conflict or greater clarity about the future of the relationship.
What may become possible
More choice in the moments that usually take over.
Couples coaching cannot guarantee a particular outcome. It can create more space for understanding, honesty and different responses.
Recognise recurring conflict patterns earlier
Express feelings, needs and boundaries more clearly
Understand each other’s perspective more deeply
React less automatically through attack or withdrawal
Make more conscious decisions about the relationship
How online couples coaching works
A simple process.
The work is a dynamic and non-linear process, but these three elements might give you a sense of what to expect.
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Your intention
You both describe what is happening and what feels important. We build a shared picture of your intention.
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Explore the dynamic
We look closely at specific moments: what gets activated, what happens inside each of you, and how the pattern unfolds between you.
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New possibilities
As the dynamic becomes clearer, different ways of speaking, listening and responding can become available.
Practical information
Everything you need to know before getting started.
90 minutes
Couples session
Online via Zoom
Join from anywhere
Income-based fees
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Why relationship work matters to me
The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.
My former partner and I were together for almost ten years. I experienced immense beauty and growth in that relationship, and it taught me a great deal about closeness, conflict, vulnerability and responsibility.
At different points, we also sought outside support in navigating our relationship. I remain deeply grateful for the people who accompanied us, and their support is part of what inspired me to support others in their own relationship processes.
More about me →FAQs
Questions about couples coaching.
What if one person is more motivated for coaching than the other?
Different levels of motivation are common. What matters is that both people participate voluntarily and are at least open to the conversation. The free clarity call can help us assess whether joint coaching feels appropriate.
Can we come if we are considering separation?
Yes. Couples coaching can support honest conversations about different wishes and a possible separation. If the process is already moving more clearly towards ending the relationship, you can also explore my conscious uncoupling support.
How many sessions will we need?
That depends on your situation and intention. Some couples begin with a single session, while others choose a package of three or six. We can discuss what may fit during the clarity call.
Do we need to be in the same place for an online session?
If possible, joining together from the same place is helpful. However, if you live separately or are in different locations, it is also totally possible to have a session in this setup.
Is couples coaching the same as couples therapy?
No. My service is coaching and does not constitute couples therapy, psychotherapy or medical treatment. It is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric or psychotherapeutic diagnosis or treatment.
How much does couples coaching cost?
I use an income-based sliding scale. You can see the current session and package prices on the fees page.
A first conversation
See whether couples coaching feels right for you.
In a free 20-minute clarity call, you can tell me what is happening, ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit.
Online · 20 minutes · No commitment